BloOming with the flowers
Monday, 11 July 2011
BE DARING...
Salaams All, I'm not sure if I'm the only person that can dress up on a simple day, as if i'm going somewhere such as a wedding etc lolol you catch my drift...but I'm more of a whatever MOOD I wake up in...I WEAR IT ALL OVER...so if I'm in a Glitz & GLAM type of mood, you'll know...lifes way to short to be what others EXPECT you to be...do you...
Sunday, 3 July 2011
OUTFIT OF THE WEEK
Salaams, yes KIM K always looks lavish, and whats best about her you can turn it around and make it hijabi. to be honest Its the colours that really stand out...coral and gold almost reminds me of royalty...plus that BLAZER is BLAZING...Hmmm time to rumage through some coral glams...
PURLE & ORANGE
Salaams my flowers, So I noticed lately that most celebs are playing with colour...But orange and purple seems to be the NEW "IT" blend...AND I'm not hating, esp since Zara had alot of fabulous purple in store...for those that may think this is a little to OUT THERE...you could still tone it down by maybe sticking to a one colour outfit but then adding some flavour with different colour shoes or a bag...and if your really simple JUST your JEWELS...PS; it doesnt have to be these colour, be a leader and turn it around and OWN IT! inshaAllah All is well with you!
With love,
a blooming rose
Recipe for a Healthy marriage
Salaams my beauties, So I found this lovely article and decided to share. We could all grow from some of the knowledge given inshaAllah.
First off, it is important to ask yourself what you consider a real relationship to be. You need to understand what your needs and desires are from another person, and what you are willing to give them. This way, you can see early in your first meetings (islamic meetings of course), if you wish to continue and work towards a future together, and if the other person feels the same of course (both sides count).
Once you have decided to have an official relationship, you both need to remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. For instance, what attracted you to each other both physically and emotionally? What do you admire about his or her personality? This will help not taking the other for granted, which can often happen after two people have been together for a long time. This does not mean the love is fading, but it does mean that there is lack of effort. People tend to get lazy after a while, because they feel comfortable and safe. This problem can be solved when both people are willing to make the time and effort.
Everyone is independent in their own beliefs and ideas about things, so never expect a person to always see things your way. However, it is important to have similar expectations out of a relationship, if you wish to avoid frequent arguments. While being in each others presence on a daily basis seems wonderful and healthy to some people, others may feel smothered and need space to have some alone time.
Patience is one of the main keys to a healthy marriage. There are times when our partner will not respond in a way in which is pleasing to us, but this does not mean we have to take it so seriously or personally. Always slow down, take a deep breath and think of reasons why your partner may be acting a certain way. Assuming and jumping to conclusions is always an unhealthy step to take because it shows your partner that they are not entitled to act freely and they feel attacked, not to mention it shows that you automatically assume the worst of them. Give your partner some time and let them know that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk. No matter what the situation may be, patience is golden in a marriage, unless your partner never wants to discuss matters with you (which would mean you need counseling).
Honesty is also at the top of everyone's list when it comes to what people want out of a marriage. A person needs to know that they can trust their mate because it builds a zone of safety and comfortableness around them. They need to know that they can at least rely on their loving partner to tell them the truth, no matter what. Being human means NOT being perfect, which means we will make mistakes. Now, we should not let that fact lead us to making mistakes we already know are wrong ahead of time. If your partner deliberately makes mistakes or you knowingly make mistakes, it shows that you or your partner lacks respect and care for the other. This is unhealthy for the marriage. What is healthy however, is realizing that the mistake you committed is a mistake. You or your partner need to know that what they did was wrong and they need to feel the sympathy for what they did. Once you or partner have realized this, you can then figure out a way of how you will confess your wrong doings to the other.
First off, it is important to ask yourself what you consider a real relationship to be. You need to understand what your needs and desires are from another person, and what you are willing to give them. This way, you can see early in your first meetings (islamic meetings of course), if you wish to continue and work towards a future together, and if the other person feels the same of course (both sides count).
Once you have decided to have an official relationship, you both need to remember what brought the two of you together in the first place. For instance, what attracted you to each other both physically and emotionally? What do you admire about his or her personality? This will help not taking the other for granted, which can often happen after two people have been together for a long time. This does not mean the love is fading, but it does mean that there is lack of effort. People tend to get lazy after a while, because they feel comfortable and safe. This problem can be solved when both people are willing to make the time and effort.
Everyone is independent in their own beliefs and ideas about things, so never expect a person to always see things your way. However, it is important to have similar expectations out of a relationship, if you wish to avoid frequent arguments. While being in each others presence on a daily basis seems wonderful and healthy to some people, others may feel smothered and need space to have some alone time.
Patience is one of the main keys to a healthy marriage. There are times when our partner will not respond in a way in which is pleasing to us, but this does not mean we have to take it so seriously or personally. Always slow down, take a deep breath and think of reasons why your partner may be acting a certain way. Assuming and jumping to conclusions is always an unhealthy step to take because it shows your partner that they are not entitled to act freely and they feel attacked, not to mention it shows that you automatically assume the worst of them. Give your partner some time and let them know that you will be there for them when they are ready to talk. No matter what the situation may be, patience is golden in a marriage, unless your partner never wants to discuss matters with you (which would mean you need counseling).
Honesty is also at the top of everyone's list when it comes to what people want out of a marriage. A person needs to know that they can trust their mate because it builds a zone of safety and comfortableness around them. They need to know that they can at least rely on their loving partner to tell them the truth, no matter what. Being human means NOT being perfect, which means we will make mistakes. Now, we should not let that fact lead us to making mistakes we already know are wrong ahead of time. If your partner deliberately makes mistakes or you knowingly make mistakes, it shows that you or your partner lacks respect and care for the other. This is unhealthy for the marriage. What is healthy however, is realizing that the mistake you committed is a mistake. You or your partner need to know that what they did was wrong and they need to feel the sympathy for what they did. Once you or partner have realized this, you can then figure out a way of how you will confess your wrong doings to the other.
Wednesday, 22 June 2011
Wedding Bliss
Salaams my dolls, No I haven't forgotten you BUT I've been quite busy and YES I'm officially married and Alhamdulilah overjoyed to have shared the past weeks celebrations with amazing family and friends. May Allah bless you all. I'll be back soon with weekly blog posts but for now I'll leave you with a few pictures of the simplicity of love, life and more.
Wednesday, 8 June 2011
Untitled
I just want to remember god with you…
Like the dents of a marble court, we once swelled into movement
Drunken off the sweat dripping from heavens sunlight
Yes I had become too fragile in this glory of you and I remembering GOD
Of you and I working for symphonies inside of our inner violin
It’s like I’m walking on the edges of “will you hold me in the same skin shell as you did on Earth”
Or would he feel more close to…never-mind that’s too sacred for the lips to unveil…
And I know you want to remember God with me
As if no other women had moved your eyeballs
And in the sense my beauty was the only thing close to defining YOUR reflection
Taking more breaths that bleed no eternal death
But birth undying life...
Fahima
Friday, 3 June 2011
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